Teamwork
One of the greatest tools in my “mommy arsenal” is the concept of teamwork, especially when it comes to my almost 4 year old and just turned 3 year old. These two are constant companions, and constant imitators of each other. If one of them wants to help me fold laundry or close the door for dad, the other one has to do it too. And I assure you, if they do not get their turn, the meltdown that ensues is of epic proportions.
However, when my husband and I remember to have everyone do something together, as a team, the crisis is averted. They are proud because they still got to help or do what they wanted, and we are happy because we are teaching them about cooperation in a very painless way. They are learning that sometimes, 2 hands are better than one, and that sometimes, your family is the best team you can have in your corner when you need help.
The teamwork notion also works to counteract a fiercely independent streak. Our 3 year old is convinced she can do everything by herself (except climb onto the potty, but that’s another story). When she is struggling to get something done and I realize she needs help, I can just say, “how about if we try some teamwork?” and it works every time. If I said, “how about I help you?” instead, she would want nothing to do with that. But teamwork - that she understands, that she accepts without question.
Teamwork is cool!
AUTHOR | Kate Miller
Kate, one of the original 3 Moms, is a happy wife and stay-at-home, homeschooling mother of 4 children, ages 9, 4, 3, and 1 1/2. She and her family have spent the past few years purposefully living a simple and frugal life. Along the way, she has learned many frugal and financially-wise tips to help her family save and intelligently spend money while still enjoying an immensely full and wonderful life. You can read more about Kate on her personal blog, A Simple Walk.
I think it must be the age, because my 3, almost 4 year old daughter is the same way. Except she doesn’t mention that she wants to help until whatever she wants to help with is over. And then there is a tantrum LOL. You are right, if I remember to ask her if she wants to help things go smoother. I just need to remember more.